Mummy Blogger: Friend or Foe?
Mummy Blogger. I’m curious. Does every Mummy Blogger write about kids exclusively or is it just a label we’ve stuck on women who have kids and blog? I have a kid and will mention him from time to time, does this make me a Mummy Blogger? Are men with kids, who blog, Daddy Bloggers? To be honest, I have been reluctant to mention my son in my writing in fear of being labelled a Mummy Blogger (then I chilled the fuck out). Not that I think there is anything wrong with being a Mummy Blogger I just don’t want to be pigeon holed. And I don’t think any writer should be pigeon holed unless self-prescribed.
Labels are labels and I know that, its what you attach to it that gives it meaning. People will attach things to it, and they do. I hear people slagging off Mummy Bloggers all the time as self-righteous, know-nothing, know-it-alls. I’ve heard people say things like ‘It’s like they think they’re the first people to ever have kids’. I read an article recently called Top Ten Reasons Why I Hate Mommy Bloggers! It was so acidic and full of hate, AND WRITTEN BY A WOMAN. Not cool Lady, aren’t we all in this together?
Why are people so personally offended?
I don’t like it that a whole group of people can be judged and cast a side so easily. Most of the time writing is about expression, (I guess the hateful woman is just expressing herself too). I’m sure there are people out there ‘doing it for the money’ but how many people are making money out of writing? I know I’m not, lol (sad face).
I do occasionally read a Mummy Blogger article and I can usually relate to what they’re saying. As a mum, sometimes (if not all the time) its nice to know you are not alone in this big world. Your toddler is not the only one on his back, flailing like a dying cockroach, on the supermarket floor. I don’t like to go on about me too much but I suffered Post Traumatic Stress shortly after my son was born, (my husband dropped dead from a cardiac arrest, a story I’ll tell another time, he is alive now by the way). Sometimes I felt like I was alone and drowning. Reading that other mums were struggling with the day to day really helped me keep on keeping on.
I think generally as a group, mums are under supported emotionally in our societies, its hard fucking work being a mum. So, why are we bashing Mummy Bloggers?